94: Shocked, or expected?

You know something is different from somebody tell you something.

Expected, I have expected one thing will happen.

Shocked, I have not expected one thing will happen. There are many meanings: not expect the thing itself would happen, not expect the thing would happen at this time, not expect the thing would happen to me, not expect the thing would happen in this particular way. All these are questions concerning the “W”s and “How”s.

Knowing more is not necessarily better, at the same time, knowing less is not necessarily worse.

Do we need to pretend we dunno something? I would say, if people expect you know, we no need to pretend anymore, if people would be shocked that you know, better keep silent. And most importantly we should respect the intention of the subject. The subject may expect you to be a big mouth or to be a zipper, and the subject would be shocked if you act in contrary to the intention.

Communicate, by a simple gesture, by a short eye contact, by a to-heart shoulder hit, by mutual understanding, by past events, by related events, by common sense, by judgement with reference to circumstances … … is essential, for handling tactfully and smoothly.